Voicing Silences

Dr. Pamela Chrabieh

The 21-year-old Lebanese-American porn star Mia Khalifa sparked controversy few days ago in Lebanon, after topping the charts of the most popular online adult site PornHub. While many were offended by her work and her tattoo ‘Koullouna lil-watan, lil ‘oula lil ‘alam’ (opening line of the Lebanese national anthem) and even demonized her, others saw her as an icon of freedom of choice and expression against religious extremism, Da3ech/ISIS and Cie (“the last frontier” against these organizations), social-political repression, censorship and sexual taboos.  It took me a while to follow the hundreds of comments on Facebook and read dozens of articles – including Huffington Post’s “Mia Khalifa Is Now PornHub’s Biggest Porn Star – But Her Lebanese Compatriots Are Less Than Impressed - in order to write my own. The reactions and counter-reactions were quite similar to those related to Jackie Chamoun’s case last year – Lebanese ski champion posing nude for a sport calendar.

In her book ‘Sex and the Citadel: Intimate Life in a Changing Arab World’, the science writer, broadcaster and vice-chair of the UN’s Global Commission on HIV and the Law, Shereen El Feki, uses sex as a means to understand better the Egyptian society and other countries in the region. According to El Feki, today’s sexual intolerance of the Arab world wasn’t the ‘general rule’ in the Middle Ages – quite the opposite of a puritanical Europe -, not even in 19th century Egypt. However, sexuality is, theoretically at least, confined in the contemporary era to “state-registered, family-approved, religiously sanctioned matrimony’. Beyond those boundaries, intimacy is shameful and forbidden.

Social taboos and silences relating to sexual behavior outside specific margins have indeed proliferated in recent years and may be linked to the rise of extremisms, to diverse crises and continuous wars, although many argue that they go back to the colonialist mentality and social-political system where normativity (sexual, gender, racial…) was the product of a specific intervention to maintain or enable a particular set of power dynamics. Indeed, colonial rule (French and British) relied on many methods to socially subdue those they wished to colonize. Sexuality and gender roles played a primary role, and they were intertwined with those of race and class. Control of sexuality could be perceived as the foundation of colonial mentality, privileges and the social boundaries formed everywhere, such as the North-American case (refer here to Ann Laura Stoler. Tense and Tender Ties: the Politics of Comparison in North American History and (Post) Colonial Studies. Journal of American History. 2001. 88: 829-826) . According to Stoler, colonialism acted to impose “protective models of womanhood and motherhood and prescriptions for domestic relations that constrained both the women and men in servitude” (p. 843). These models were actively participated in by men and women themselves in the belief that superiority of colonialists lay in the possession of society as opposed to savagery.

In the land of the creation/dissemination of the first alphabet, taboos/silences coexist with spaces of negotiability or accommodations of discreet ‘practices’ and ‘incidents’ of otherwise publicly condemned attitudes and behaviors – as long as the mechanisms of control are not threatened. Sexuality is closely linked to discretion. In his article ‘Power and Sexuality in the Middle East’ (Middle East Report), Bruce Dunne argues that there were always contradictions between normative morality and social realities in Middle Eastern societies from the medieval to the modern period. Ruling authorities often saw prostitution for instance “as a socially useful alternative to potential male sexual violence (e.g. against respectable women) and a welcome source of tax revenues”, “a part of the secret equilibrium of local societies, necessary to their social reproduction”. The cases of Chamoun and Khalifa have much more to do with their ‘public revelation’ – the public revelation of a woman’s body and of sexuality – than with the practice itself. What should have been discreet, secret, part of the private realm, was disclosed. They have much more to do with their ‘uncontrolled’ character as human beings, citizens, and specifically, as women – women are usually perceived as emotional and lacking self-control, particularly of sexually drives. Female sexuality in that perspective, if unsatisfied or uncontrolled, could disrupt the distribution of gender roles in relation to power and result in social chaos.

That being said, are public nudity/sexuality and pornography the mediums of a mindset revolution leading to gender equality and advanced societies in Lebanon and surrounding countries? Is a sexual revolution the basis of a sustainable change that the so-called Arab spring did not achieve in most countries? According to some ‘fans’ of Khalifa’s work, public expression of sexuality is a feminist expression and beyond, a human rights’ expression, and a channel of sexual liberation, which is a key component of women’s liberation and generally, of the Lebanese society’s liberation from subjugation and censorship. Criticism of public display of nudity/sexuality and pornography according to this approach is the product of the oppressive Lebanese social-political system and religious extremist movements/ideologies.

Noting here that few Lebanese distinguish between pornography and erotica as different classes of social media, the former emphasizing dominance and the latter mutuality. (refer to Gloria Steinem’s and Page Mellish’s works, and to ‘Al Jassad’ (The Body) magazine by the Lebanese feminist journalist and author Joumana Haddad).

According to some anti-pornography individuals (comments found on Khalifa’s account), these mediums are forms of violence against women. Khalifa is ‘young thus unconscious, immature’. She is perceived as ‘a victim of the sex industry’, a vulnerable prey, easily coerced. Also, pornography contributes to sexism – women are reduced to sex objects for the sole pleasure of men – and distorted perceptions of men’s and women’s bodies and of sexual relations. Others anti-pornography views displayed religious – specifically Muslim and Christian – arguments related to chastity, virginity, licit/illicit behavior, and vehemently condemned Khalifa and those who defended her.

Certainly, women’s bodies and sexuality have become arenas of political clashes and intense ethical/moral conflicts in Lebanon and most South Western Asian countries. Conservative and religious right wings in different communities try to maintain or reinforce mechanisms of control, and even create new ones, thus positioning social actors as powerful or powerless, normal or deviant. At the same time, there are women and men who struggle against violations of human rights -such as sexual and reproductive rights-, and who join sometimes their forces to counter these mechanisms both online and offline, but the impact of their visions, discourses and praxis is still minimal. Furthermore, when they only focus on the appropriation and valorization of bodies and sexuality in the public sphere, they miss other ways of voicing silences, other fundamental pillars for a renewed social-political edifice that would guarantee both individual and collective rights, a free marketplace of ideas and the formation of a pluralistic society where differences of opinions and practices would more than coexist, truly ‘exist together’.

Weaving a new tapestry definitely requires a multiple levels’ pattern!

About Dr. Pamela Chrabieh

Lebanese-Canadian Doctor of Sciences of Religions (University of Montreal, QC, Canada). Associate Professor of Middle Eastern Studies (American University in Dubai). Artist, Author, Blogger, Activist, and Mother of one daughter. Founder of the 'Red Lips High Heels' movement.

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36 Responses to Voicing Silences

  1. Maribelle Loutfi January 6, 2015 at 5:59 pm #

    Excellent Dr. Chrabieh. Objective analysis and statement!

  2. Karim Chalfoun January 6, 2015 at 6:02 pm #

    Good evening Dr., voicing silences indeed follow different paths, and they could be combined in order to find a common ground. But i don’t agree with pro-public expression of one’s sexuality as the way to advance society. Thank you for raising this issue and for voicing what others are not able to.
    The road leading to a social-political reformation in Lebanon is far from being reachable.

    • Dr. Pamela Chrabieh January 6, 2015 at 7:23 pm #

      I believe reformation is possible, with education, public awareness, empowerment and lots of patience.

  3. Mirna Mallat January 6, 2015 at 6:22 pm #

    Love the title! Love the article!
    It is more than important for most Lebanese to voice their silences and deconstruct their multiple taboos. Or else they become destructive. When then censor themselves, they think they are maintaining a certain balance, and preventing chaos. But what they don’t realize is that they already live in chaos and lost balance a long time ago. Silences lead to exclusions, mental problems, conflicts… A sick society that needs healing. And I agree with Karim and your statement Dr.: healing cannot be based on a public display of nudity nor by using pornography.
    What about mutual respect between men and women to start with?

  4. Selena (Berlin) January 6, 2015 at 6:48 pm #

    Thank you for this amazing analysis/statement!

    I just read also Juliana Yazbeck’s article and her conclusion: “We are all free. But that also means we are free to fight with our brains, not just our vaginas”.

    https://now.mmedia.me/lb/en/commentaryanalysis/564616-mamma-mia-how-one-feminist-feels-about-mia-khalifa

    • Dr. Pamela Chrabieh January 6, 2015 at 7:25 pm #

      Thank you Selena! I also read Yazbeck’s article. Amazing to see that more and more Lebanese women are building alternative narratives!

  5. Khairallah January 6, 2015 at 6:49 pm #

    I agree Selena :)

  6. Khairallah January 6, 2015 at 6:50 pm #

    It seems that being an intelligent woman in Lebanon is not enough to become successful. Shame on the Lebanese people! – most of them!

    • Dr. Pamela Chrabieh January 6, 2015 at 7:26 pm #

      Hello Khairallah, thank you for your comment, although I don’t agree with generalizations. There are successful women in Lebanon and outside the country. It depends on how one defines ‘success’.

  7. Matta January 6, 2015 at 7:01 pm #

    Most Lebanese do not value knowledge. It’s all about show-off, hypocrisy and materialism. Or else, they would have done their revolution a long time ago.
    Sexuality is taboo for individuals and families, but not all of them.
    Human trafficking including prostitution is flourishing in Lebanon! I don’t see political figures nor religious ones criticizing that reality. And i don’t understand why a porn star in the US would become so famous in Lebanon! Even if she was born in Lebanon. Who cares??

    • Dr. Pamela Chrabieh January 6, 2015 at 7:32 pm #

      Once again with generalizations…
      Knowledge is valued in Lebanon but not to the extent of other countries – such as the Scandinavian.
      A revolution is quite impossible for the moment. Maybe in few generations. Meanwhile, the Lebanese society in all its components needs healing. Too many wounded memories. Fortunately, there are individuals and groups who are still struggling for a better Lebanon, even if most initiatives are scattered.

  8. Al January 6, 2015 at 7:13 pm #

    Yes for a new pattern using multiple approaches!
    Excellent Dr. Chrabieh! Enjoyed reading your article!

  9. Magdalena January 6, 2015 at 7:15 pm #

    Dear Dr, Happy New Year :)
    Amazing article. Sharing it in my circles of friends and colleagues.

  10. Cyrus the Great January 6, 2015 at 7:17 pm #

    Despite its huge problems, Lebanon is still the land of freedom of expression in the region. If not in newspapers and on TV, at least online.
    The debate is ongoing and i don’t think we will ever find a final solution to agree upon. Divergent opinions exist and unfortunately, common grounds are missing.

  11. Al January 6, 2015 at 7:18 pm #

    To Cyrus the Great: ‘land of freedom of expression’? What about censorship at all levels??

  12. Dr. Pamela Chrabieh January 6, 2015 at 7:37 pm #

    To Cyrus and Al, this is the link to MARCH organization website – against censorship in Lebanon. You may find its content quite interesting:
    http://www.censorshiplebanon.org/Home

  13. Al January 6, 2015 at 7:39 pm #

    Thank you Dr. for the link. Will surely visit and share my ideas!

  14. Mosbah January 6, 2015 at 7:40 pm #

    Love the title and the content :)

  15. therese January 7, 2015 at 4:52 am #

    Dear Dr. I read your article and it’s impressive. Thank you for sharing such enlightening analysis. But i don’t think many would understand the content, especially those who belong to the extremes, pro or anti.

  16. S. January 7, 2015 at 4:53 am #

    Hello Dr. Such refreshing thoughts! Delighted!

  17. karl January 7, 2015 at 4:58 am #

    To Therese: i’m pro 100% (public display of sexuality) in the name of freedom of expression and i could still grasp the content of this article. I just have my opinion and i’m perfectly fine with it. Assuming it to the max. If men and women in Lebanon and the arab world are still ‘makboutin’, sexually frustrated, revolutions will not occur. Liberation of the body then a liberation of the mind!

  18. therese January 7, 2015 at 5:00 am #

    Liberation of the body along with a liberation of the mind. The latter is much more important. the former would be then sustainable.

  19. Sylvie-Jamil January 7, 2015 at 11:24 am #

    Hello Dr. I just finished reading your article. Impressive :)

  20. Rabih Rached January 8, 2015 at 10:52 pm #

    Once again, your wise approach is quite fascinating. Thank you for putting the approach of sexuality in my country in its context. In fact this will help Lebanese people to equalize pressure over the subject of sexuality. We must know where our perspectives come from without judging them. You already made a similar job with your historical approach in your book “Womanhood in Western Asia. A Journey to the Past”. For example, putting back the current wedding rites in their genealogy was quite rich. I praise your emphasis on treating the different subjects in “3D” manner like you said here “multiple levels’ pattern”. However, I don’t dare to say that “a pluralistic society where differences of opinions and practices would more than coexist, truly exist together” because some practices simply cannot exist together because they are antonymous. Thus a choice must be done. At last, I really count on what you discover in order to better understand “where we are” وين الله حطّنا as to say it in the lebanese slang, because liberation comes from the truth as JPII said. Truly, it does not come from attitudes of rejection & reaction.

    • Dr. Pamela Chrabieh January 9, 2015 at 7:38 am #

      Thank you Rabih :) I do have hope in a better diversity management where differences could be respected but common grounds would be the basis of a social-political system.

  21. Siloe January 9, 2015 at 4:34 pm #

    Love it ! Excellent!

  22. Laurent f. January 10, 2015 at 6:54 am #

    Excellent Dr. Chrabieh!

    And may I say that this platform is highly interesting. I always enjoy reading the articles that are published and the rich debates that follow.

  23. Kalima January 10, 2015 at 7:15 am #

    Thanks for your voice of reason. Keep up the good job!!

  24. Dr Frank Darwiche January 11, 2015 at 6:19 pm #

    Nice and clear presentation of the issue Dr Chrabieh. I hadn’t heard about it personally, so thank you!

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